In Lifequakes, hosts Patricia Wu and Jessica Reyes are joined by therapist Deanne Schulz to provide insight on addressing persistent self-criticism.
A Relentless Battle
Chronic self-criticism can feel like a constant internal battle, chipping away at self-esteem and hindering personal growth. It’s that relentless voice in your head that magnifies flaws and minimizes achievements. However, you don’t have to be trapped in this cycle. Here are some strategies to foster self-compassion and silence that inner critic.
Steps to take:
1. Recognize and Challenge: The first step is awareness. Notice those critical thoughts and question their validity. Are they based on facts or are they exaggerated fears? Challenge these thoughts by reframing them in a more balanced and compassionate way.
2. Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a close friend. Acknowledge your struggles without judgment, and remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes. Engage in activities that nurture your well-being, such as mindfulness meditation or spending time in nature.
3. Focus on Your Strengths: Shift your attention from perceived flaws to your positive qualities and accomplishments. Make a list of your strengths and refer to it when you’re feeling down. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem.
4. Set Realistic Expectations: Perfectionism often fuels self-criticism. Remember, it’s okay to make mistakes and it’s okay not to be the best at everything. Set achievable goals and focus on progress, not perfection.
5. Seek Professional Help: If self-criticism significantly impacts your daily life, consider seeking professional guidance. A therapist can provide tools and support to manage negative thoughts and cultivate self-acceptance.
Don’t let yourself fall back into negative habits
Overcoming chronic self-criticism takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself, celebrate your progress, and don’t hesitate to reach out for help when needed.
For more insights from therapist Dianne Schulz, check out her LinkedIn!
