Ever had a loved one with dementia tell you a story that seemed a bit… off? Maybe they recalled an event that never happened or mixed up details from different memories. It’s a common experience for those caring for someone with dementia, and it can be confusing or upsetting.
So, what’s the best way to respond?
The answer might surprise you. Jessica Reyes, Patricia Wu, and Dr. Marcelline Girlie suggest that going along with the false memory can actually be more helpful. Why? Because arguing or trying to convince them otherwise can lead to distress and frustration for both of you.
Instead, try gently redirecting the conversation.
You can ask questions about the story, like “That sounds interesting, tell me more about what happened next?” This encourages them to create a new narrative without causing upset.
False memories often arise from bits and pieces of real memories jumbled together. Your loved one isn’t intentionally lying; they’re simply trying to make sense of the world around them.
By approaching these situations with curiosity and compassion, you can strengthen your connection with your loved one and create a more positive experience for everyone involved.
