What do you do when someone else’s problems are becoming your own? Hosts Jessica Reyes, Patricia Wu and guest therapist Dr. Cortina Peters dive into Psychology Today’s reasons why it’s sometimes important to let others handle their own issues.
The Emotional Strain of People-Pleasing
People-pleasers often feel stuck between resentment and guilt when they take on others’ problems. It’s crucial to separate your emotions from others’ and let them manage their own feelings. Dr. Cortina says there’s a difference between caring for your loved ones and carrying the load by yourself. It’s also important to recognize what role they want you to play, because sometimes they may just want you to listen.
Signs That You’re Taking on Too Much
Signs that you’re taking on too much can include obsessing over interactions, feeling bitter, and frequently asking, “why me?” This mindset can lead to resentment and blame, damaging relationships. Dr. Cortina advises to be honest with yourself if you have the emotional capacity to take on extra responsibilities your loved ones may be trying to push on you.
Establishing Healthy Boundaries
Practice freeing self-talk, accept that not all relationships will meet your expectations, and embrace forgiveness with self-compassion.
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