Watching your partner battle depression can be a heavy burden. It’s natural to feel helpless, exhausted, and sometimes even a little resentful. You want to support them, but you also need to take care of yourself. How do you find that balance?
First, remember depression isn’t their fault – or yours.
Jessica Reyes, Patricia Wu, and Deanna Dellia highlight it is an illness, not a personal failing. They’re not withdrawing or losing interest in things because of you. This understanding can help you approach the situation with compassion, not blame.
Instead of trying to “fix” them, focus on being there for them.
Listen to their struggles without judgment, and offer reassurance that you love and support them, no matter what.
It’s also essential to set boundaries.
It’s okay to say “no” when you’re feeling overwhelmed, and it’s okay to express your own needs in the relationship. Remember, you’re a team, and both of your mental health matters.
Gently encouraging therapy can be a game-changer. Let your partner know you’re open to attending couples counseling with them, or help them research therapists who specialize in depression. If therapy isn’t an option right now, explore other resources like depression workbooks or support groups.
And finally, don’t forget about YOU. Prioritize self-care activities that bring you joy. Talk to a therapist yourself if needed, or connect with others who understand what you’re going through.
