Ever feel like a referee in your own home, constantly navigating family blow-ups? If mental health issues are causing tension and conflict, it’s easy to get stuck playing peacemaker, which is draining and stressful.
Think of it like this: if you had a heart problem, would you try to operate on yourself? Of course not! It’s the same with mental health issues. You’re not a therapist, and it’s not your job to fix everyone’s problems.
So, what can you do?
Patricia Wu, Jessica Reyes, and Rabbi Gaines offers guidance:
- Seek professional help. A family therapist can teach you and your loved ones the skills needed to communicate better and handle conflict. They can also help you set healthy boundaries to protect your own well-being.
- Focus on your own response. How are you reacting to the drama? By changing your responses, you might be surprised at how much you can de-escalate situations. Therapy can equip you with the tools to do this effectively.
- Consider distance if necessary. If, despite your best efforts, things don’t improve and your mental health is suffering, it might be time to create some distance. It’s okay to prioritize your own well-being, even if it means stepping back from certain relationships.
Don’t hesitate to reach out for help and create a healthier, happier family dynamic.
